Couples Work
Intimate Relationships
"Justine is direct and to the point, really amazing, and the only therapist we have been to who cut straight to the heart of the matter. She got to the core issue really fast and kept coming at me in a number of ways. She helped us to get the process going. Our enneagram patterns helped me to understand my wife so much more. She hit the nail on the head about us, how to be realistic and when I put up a wall she kept working with me to take it down."
Steve C.
Are you ready to connect more deeply with your partner?
Knowing what really makes your parter tick and communicating effectively with them establishes a deeper level of connection. Sometimes we are stranded from the person we most want to connect with by our unconscious defense system.
Intimate Relationships are intrinsically entangled with our childhood experiences. Little do we know when we meet the person of our dreams that we have not only discovered an ideal but also just served ourselves up with our childhood trauma which very often derails the Disney fantasy we had entertained and becomes a brutal act of tolerance.
Luckily there is a way through the woods. With heightened communication skills and a perceptual pivot we can learn to get out of the field of projections, out of the shaming and blaming and self abandonment that often starts to characterize relationships in our somewhat insane culture.
The Enneagram provides a very illuminating map for us to start to navigate our way back to our authentic self and into a place of real relating that's not skewed by fantasy and projection and the expectations, hopes and fears that were set up in childhood.
Knowing your default architecture and your partners is a key component to understanding who you are really with, not taking things personally, reestablishing trust, authentic expression and deeper communication.